Podcast | 017 - Stop Worrying About What People Think About You

In this episode of Own Your Journey, I coach you to stop worrying about what other people think about you, to stop trying to please everyone, and to quit trying to get everyone to like you.  If you are someone who aims to please every person you meet and tries to be the best at everything, then this episode is for you!

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The content in this episode was inspired by recent conversations and events that have occurred with my friends and family members.  I know that there are so many people who try to keep everyone happy and try to be everything to everyone, but you just can't do that!  I share my personal experience with this, including how my mindset spiraled out of control until I had no concept of self-worth left, and I even spill a super secret that I've really never told anyone except for my closest family and a few friends.  So if you want to know what that secret is, you're gonna want to listen - trust me, it's really intimate and kind of surprising.

The fact is that when you are constantly worrying about what other people think about you, and you're constantly trying to please everyone and get everyone to like you, you put your self worth and confidence into their hands.  It's like taking all of the gas out of your own car and putting it into someone else's, and then you have to rely on them to drive you around - you never get to the destination that you really wanted to go to.  You have to go wherever they take you, and 99% of the time it isn't where you wanted to end up.  (Trust me, I've been there.)

You have to be okay with the fact that not everyone is going to like you.  In fact, that should make you feel awesome, because that means that you know who you are and you won't sacrifice your values, morals, quirks, or characteristics for anyone because they make you, YOU!  The only person you should worry about liking you is YOU.  You've got to start filling up your own gas tank so that you can go wherever you want to go in life.

That means getting to know yourself, and understanding who you are and what you really want out of life.  Once you know what truly fulfills you and lights you up, you'll find your way to build confidence and start trusting yourself.  You already have what you're looking for - it's inside of you.  You don't have to prove yourself to anyone - you're already worth it!  But you have to be okay with the fact that some people aren't going to like you, some people aren't going to agree with you, and some people will straight up try to hurt you (enter super secret here).  But none of that will break you, because you know who you are, and you know what your truth is.

Remember, if you keep trying to please everyone and keep worrying about what they think about you, then that will become your reality - it becomes your life.  What you focus on expands, and what you allow will continue.  Set boundaries for yourself, and let your friends or family (or both) know when they've crossed a line into unchartered territory.  Respectfully acknowledge that their behavior or topic of conversation is uncomfortable for you and isn't something you are going to entertain, and politely exit the situation, or politely ask to change the subject.

Sometimes, unfortunately, you might have to cut ties with a person if you realize the relationship no longer serves you, or you feel out of alignment with your core values when you're around that person.  It's okay to distance yourself from certain people.  You don't have to be all "I CUT YOU OUT" about it, just slowly and gently back out of the relationship by becoming less available.  No harm, no foul.

Setting boundaries and learning how to establish self-trust is something that will be explored further in the mini-course, and testers get exclusive first access to it, for free!  Sign up here if you want in, but act fast before it's full!  Don't say I didn't warn ya!



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